Happy Winters Solstice!

Happy Shortest Day of the year in the Northern Hemisphere. Sometimes the months pass so fast, I can't believe it's winter already. Summer seems so close.

My summer and fall were filled with lots of fun, beach, parties and yes drinking!! I've been going through a metamorphosis of sorts in terms of finding new found independence, breaking some old die-hard relationship patterns and relishing in my exhilerated-ness of well being... well most of the time. I recent months however, I've found that it's too easy to hang out with friends and carry on, and get derailed from the reality of life.

There is not better time than the present to make change. That's always been my motto, and to compound that there is really no better time than to make change than today's winter's solstice.
It's a great time to start with gratitude. A deep appreciation for what you do have. Your life, your breath, your friends and family. That's where I am starting. Where are you starting?

Here's yet another article I wrote about change... Have a read!

Happy Holidays and Happy New Year!

Read the December newsletter HERE.

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The Ethical Threesome Review for Couples

How to Have a Threesome and Still Feel Respected in the Morning, 

By Moushumi Ghose

Threesomes are a sort of sexual-dalliance-de-jour as of late, but it’s no secret that men from many different walks of nature fantasize or find the thought of being with two women extremely erotic. Women also are found embracing the concept of threesomes, whatever the gender, her plus two men, her plus two women, her plus a man and woman. Threesomes, are not a new concept. This erotic main course has been around since the beginning of time, or sex, whichever came first.

But there are some downfalls, and intricacies woven into this type of party. First of all, our society praises couple-hood. The twosome or dyad is the most common sexual unit in our society, and is often the primary relationship in a threesome so adding a third party can and often does complicate things.

I’ve had many a women tell me their boyfriend, or male partner would absolutely love to be the only guy in a threesome sandwich, but sometimes, particularly if the woman is not used to or not very desirous of another female, she can feel self conscious, awkward or downright disgusted at the thought, let alone in the act. If a woman is confronted with this scenario, and is not sure how she feels about it, I will point out that then perhaps this is your boyfriend asking you to fulfill one of his fantasies, and yes, he is allowed to do that. I am a huge proponent of asking for what you need, want and desire in our intimate relationships. And in return, I will recommend she turn the tables on him, and not just for arguments sake, but 1) to see if there is a double standard here she needs to know about, or should be worried about, and 2) to know if he would he be willing to fulfill her fantasy for her? This is the real question she should be asking him.  Will your partner reciprocate?

If, let’s say her fantasy is to be with two men, would he be willing to do it? If he says no, then we have a problem here. See many men assume that two women should naturally want to be together, and that therefore this would be pleasurable for him and her, however, if she is doing this more so to satisfy one of his fantasies, he needs to be open to satisfying hers. Relationships are a give and take, a two-way street and built on mutual respect, admiration and reciprocation. Repeat after me: Reciprocation. I love reciprocation and so should you. It is what a relationship is built on. Please embed that into your brain. 

But herein lies the conundrum with threesomes, the third person is not an object but also a breathing human, flesh and blood, individual who needs to now be negotiated into the pact, which is no longer a dyad at this point, even if this is a one-off, a one time deal, or one night stand. The dyad although is the primary couple must now take into account the third persons needs, desires wants. Plus all the logistical stuff. How does the couple meet him/her? What are his/her requirements for participating in the threesome? There are a series of rules, or guidelines the couple and the 3^rd party should adhere to before jumping into the sack together. And these rules need to be drawn up together.

Ladies, if your man wants you to participate in a threesome and you are doing this for him, not because you really want to, please learn to negotiate your needs into the agreement. That’s the bottom line. This is a common fantasy for many men, don’t take it personal, and do get something out of it for yourself too. And, since as a society we’re so accustomed to the duo, the third person may bring up some unwanted emotions. Know this before embarking on this potentially dangerous adventure. If you are insecure or jealous, trust me, it will come up. So come up with some ground rules that make you feel safe, that lets you know your primary relationship is secure first. If that means ‘No Intercourse’ or ‘No Kissing’ with the third party, that’s your call, but do be honest with yourself about what would make you uncomfortable and then tread lightly. Then you gotta negotiate some ground rules with the third party. Remember to get your needs met and reciprocate. 

The key to a successful threesome is defining the ground rules before going in.

The Fixing Business

When we care about someone, or even when we hear someone struggling we have an innate built in response to try and help that person. I call this "fixing" behavior, and unfortunately it comes across as "unsolicited advice." In many cases, it may in fact be better, to just listen, and empathize. Being a moral support may just be what your friend wants. Read more here.

Hillary Clinton's AIDS-Free Generation

I am quoted in this article. Please read on....

AIDS-free America? According to the experts, it could happen.

Yesterday, just two days before World AIDS Day, Hillary Clinton rolled out plans to help rid the world of AIDS. While efforts will focus largely in sub-Saharan Africa, where providing access to medication is a major priority, we're not off the hook at home.

No big O?

Are you worried about hurting their feelings? How do you tell your partner, without hurting their feelings. of course, that you are not Orgasming? Dealing with these issues sensitively is important, but also key is to realize that your needs matter too. Don't be shy. Stand up for yourself!! Read my response here.

Is he a 30 second guy?

It's always kind of a joke in our culture, about the 1 minute man, or the 30 second guy, but this is a source of humiliation for men, it's not something men are proud of, it's embarrassing and can be a downer for the relationship. However, at the end of the day it's also an aspect of sexuality that can be healed. 

Going in with mutual respect and admiration is always going to be more helpful than criticizing, nagging, taking it personally. 

This weeks question on Get Lusty addresses this very issue. Read the article here.

Sex with the Lights Off Only Please...

There is something hot and steamy about sex... in the dark. But sometimes sex with the light on can be hot, too yet, not everyone is comfortable with this scenario. What are the reasons for this? Could it be body image? Could it be messages about sex we received that tell us this is taboo, not allowed, dirty or secret? Check out my video : How to Be Comfortable Naked on the Your Tango Experts home page here!

5 Reasons Couples Enter Sex Therapy

Get Lusty published my article on the Top 5 Reasons Couples Get Sex Therapy. Read the article here.

Newsletter For November

My monthly newsletter came out in email boxes everywhere today. You can read it HERE. You may also want to stop by my website and subscribe. It's FREE!

Kissing is HOT!

I love kissing, not necessarily as a form of foreplay, but as a beautiful way of connecting for two individuals which read: DOES NOT always need to be followed by sex. I strongly recommend kissing just for the sake of it, because it really is a huge turn on.

Kissing is a great way for couples who have lost their way when it comes to passion and romance to bring some of that excitement back. Kissing is also great to maintain intimacy in relationships, and to build a connection if you're new together.

Here is a video I did for Your Tango on teaching your partner How to Kiss, in the event that kissing is a little awkward, which let's face it, sometimes it can be. The good news is that you too can learn to be a better kisser. Do it!!

Taking Charge of Your Sex Life

The Frisky, celebrity and lifestyle zine on the web recently picked up my video "Taking Charge of Your Sex Life," which is a video I initially did for Your Tango, a celebrity and lifestyle webzine for which I am a regular contributor. The video talks about situations in which you may be feeling a little out of step with your partner, what some causes are and how to remedy this situation.  Check out the video and article here.

Many of my sex therapy / education videos and articles can be found at Your Tango, so please do check those out as well.

The State of Affairs and the State of California

Today, I woke up to find that Obama is still president.  I am relieved.

I also found out that Measure B passed, which will require adult entertainment actors (I.E, porn stars) to wear condoms. Do Californians know what this means? These measures are tricky. They advocate for safe sex, which everyone advocates for however, most people don't read the fine print. Porn is entertainment, not sex education, for one. In this arena we are exchanging something that is supposed to be there solely for entertainment, READ: we like watching raunchy, wild untethered sex, into something that sets an example for others. Tisk Tisk California. What we need is more Sex Education, not condoms on porn stars! On an economic level, this is going to be terrible for California's economy. Porn is huge in Southern California, and many of the actors will be losing jobs, as porn may now take to another state. I thought Californians wanted their economy to recover. More stringent laws also means pushing things underground, which means bigger black market which means more illegal business, more violence and more crimes. This might be a scary time for California.

Proposition 35 passed too. More stringent laws for Sex traffickers? Sounds like a good idea, but sex traffickers already get punished. This doesn't make sense at all. More stringent laws is not the answer. These measures and propositions are going to set our state back. This particular proposition is a scam to punish:   
"innocent people by broadening the definition of pimping: anyone receiving financial support from consensual prostitution among adults, including a sex worker's children or spouse, could be prosecuted as a human trafficker. If convicted, they would have to register as a sex offender for life.

The measure could be challenged as unconstitutional for its vague definition of human trafficking that would include the "intent to distribute obscene matter," possibly for "cruel and unusual" punishments including excessive prison terms and fines, and for inhibiting a defendant's right to introduce evidence in defense trials.It will cost the state even more through increased workloads in probation departments and through new training for police." (from KCET.org)

What does this mean for me today? I broke down in tears, somewhat fearful of where this state is going. I remember the days of Bill Clinton, the country seemed to be moving forward, but now what? 
Now what? As a sex therapist and sex educator I have my work cut out for me. 

You're Gonna Have to Face it...

You're addicted to love! It's true, those are the lyrics from a Robert Palmer song in the 80's but ironically today a new classification of emotional addiction has emerged, called love addiction.

What exactly is love addiction? Well it's a term to describe compulsive behaviors that may result from fear of being alone, or of needed attention and affection. It's the compulsive seeking of attention and companionship which can be spiritually unhealthy for the soul, as well as developmentally for emotional growth.
Check out my article about Love Addiction here, and find out what it is and how to overcome it.

Orgasm October

I also started writing for Get Lusty, answering questions about sex and sexuality for their readers. In this weeks question a woman wants to know why she no longer orgasms with her partner. You gotta read the post to find out how to get your sexy back. Check it out here!

Do It Wisely!

I am a huge proponent for sex, in case you couldn't tell, but I strongly believe in making deliberate choices as well.  Sometimes in the heat of passion, we can be overcome by desire and lust and guess what can also happen... our caution can go out the window. Now, I am not suggesting we be cautious or reserved or tentative when we are sexual, quite the contrary, I am just suggesting that you make some choices for yourself in honor of your body and mind.

I've come up with a list of rules for having sex, if you are not in a relationship. Yes, I am suggesting you stop and think about it. Sex is not something that you should just be 'doing,' sex should be a conscious choice that makes you feel good in the moment and in the moments to come. Does that make sense?!
Anyway, here is the article I wrote: 3 Rules For Sex If You Are Single. Check it out!!

New Stuff For You!!

In a post from a few days ago, you will see the first in a series of professional sex education videos I did for Your Tango. Well, as part of my next step in Sex Education for individuals and couples I will be releasing a new video, every week, pertaining to some sexual revelation for you!!

In it's place, and after 19 months and 50 episodes, I have decided to take a hiatus from the radio show. (Sad Face) You can still catch all my episodes on iTunes, just search for 'Sex, Love & Rock 'N' Roll with Mou Ghose.' There are some amazing guests on there, talking about all things which are meant to help raise awareness about sex. I love doing the radio show, but with the new focus on videos, something just had to give. This summer especially, I had some of my favorite most inspirational guests on, and of course if someone else comes along I'll do a show here and there, but for now I have decided not to focus on these.

You will definitely be seeing lots of videos though... so stay tuned for those, and of course I will continue writing the articles for Your Tango and Good Therapy as well.

Thanks for stopping by... and HAPPY OCTOBERFEST to all!!

Healthy Sex During Pregnancy

I attended the Healthy Pregnancy Summit this past summer. Here is the link to my presentation, and yes, it includes good sex positions if you are expecting.
LISTEN HERE.

Using Sex Toys - For Couples

Hello Everyone! My Sex Education video series is starting this week! That's right 13 weeks of new sex education / sex therapy videos (sponsored by Your Tango) to help you navigate your relationships, intimacy, family and sex life.

Here's a sneak peak at what is to come....

Paying For Sex....

Join me as I interview Vanessa London of The Mustang Ranch, and Raven of the Stardust Ranch.

This Tuesday at 6PM Pacific Time- Legal Nevada Sex Workers

on Sex, Love and Rock 'N' Roll Radio.

Tune in, listen and call in, wontcha? 

LISTEN HERE.

Have a Sex Heart -to- Heart

Couples tell me all the time, "Oh we have no problems with communication," but when I ask them about the conversations around intimacy, sex, connectivity, fantasies, etc so on and so forth, people often start to retreat, get embarrassed, look at each other with an awkward smile.  Well, news flash ladies and gentlemen plain old talking is not always saying something, you can say 100 words and not say anything at all, right? Unless the words are cohesive, understandable, and most importantly heart felt you might be talking but can anyone really hear you? 

Here is my article about having the sex heart-to-heart, it's about getting down to the nitty gritty, being totally honest about what turns you on, your fantasies, bearing your soul to your partner so that you can begin having the best sex of your life. 

Now, it's not something that can happen in one day, or even a week. This article is geared towards long term couples, and most of the time to make lasting changes it's an ongoing process. Start slow, with one foot in front of the other and watch your sex vocabulary grow, your connection with your partner grow, the burden of your secrets start to fade. Trust me on this one.

You can read the article here, and if you want more info, education, counseling, coaching or therapy don't hesitate to contact me!

LASexTherapist.com

Mou@LASexTherapist.com

(323)739-4250

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Read the article HERE.

Fun in the Sun- July!

Well, therapists need to take vacations too, or at least time off to rest and regenerate, spend time with friends and family and reconnect with ourselves, our roots, and our history. And that is what I did this month, including a trip to Northern California spending time in Marin County and the East Bay (east of the San Francisco Bay) catching up with friends and family.

I also attended the wedding of a good friend in Newport Beach, which was beautiful and spent a weekend partying it up for a friend's 40th birthday in Vegas. It's nice to get away, but I was also glad to be back at work, working together towards a more insightful and conscious existence. Sex Therapy isn't just about sex, it's about mindful, awareness, self love, and respect. The more you have the better equipped you are to handle relationships whether they be intimate or otherwise.

This month I had two newsletters, which is rare since I usually only do one a month, (which means I wrote 4 pieces on better sexual & relational living, instead of two) plus I have had several amazing radio guests, and I did a symposium on healthy sex during pregnancy.
All the links are below.

Radio Episodes:
Kelly Shibari, Porn Star 

Alyssa Siegel, Co-author of Your Brain on Sex

Newsletters (which include the links to all my articles as well):

July 17, 2012: The Sizzling Sexy Summer Edition

July 30, 2012 : The Single, Loving It and Slut Edition


Thank you for stopping by! See you in August!!
Love, light and lube,
Mou

June Gloom!

Los Angelenos have an understanding of June gloom, it's just the marine layer casting a gray sky in the early mornings, sometimes lingering throughout the day in what is typically a sunny locale. We're supposed to be at the beach... right? Well, I've got the cure for June Gloom....

Sex, Love and Rock N Roll Radio with Mou.... that's me, in case you didn't know!!

I try to air the show every other Tuesday and have all sorts of racy guests from lesbians talking about female orgasm, to steamy romance novelists talking about sex, to other sex educators and sex positive advocates speaking on all things .... you guessed it SEX! My ultimate is to get the conversations started about sex, sexuality, alternative lifestyles, masturbation and to break down the myths around it.

I'm really excited as we've got some scantily clad minded guests coming on this summer... so do stop by my radio page and check it out!!

I am also looking forward to my Sex education videos which should be coming out really soon!!

Thanks for stopping by and staying tuned.

Love, Light and Lube,
Mou

7 Thins You Need to Know About Sex

The lack of knowledge about sex coupled with the lack of education leads to a lack of communication and a lack of coping skills when it comes to dealing with issues having to do withsex, which, in the end, is the downfall of many relationships.


There is more to sex than arousal, intercourse and orgasm. Read my article here. 

I Love May: Masturbation Month and a Lesbian Show...

4 Reasons Why Masturbation is Important

and

Listen this Tuesday, May 15th at 9PM to The Art of Sex: A Lesbian Perspective

On Being Sexual...Indeed!

I am gearing up for a busy weekend. On top of serving my clients needs, taking care of myself by eating healthy, getting enough sleep and eating right, I will also be attending the SSSS (Society for Scientific Study of Sexuality) Western Region Conference 2012: On Being Sexual, Innovations in Thought and Science, which will be held at the Los Angeles Biltmore Hotel in Downtown LA this weekend April 19-21, 2012.

Check out the website for all the amazing speakers including my mentors/friends Dr. Stella Resnick, and Dr. Susan Block and Adult Film Star and sex educator Nina Hartley.

I will most definitely be reporting back what I learn, so stay tuned and see you soon!!
xoxo Mou

Getting to Know Your Partner, Again

You know, we live in this mindset, of Happily Ever After which sort of deludes us when our relationship shifts, or our partner goes through a life change. We expect things to stay the same and when they don't we feel bereft of understanding how to handle the changes.
Allowance for grieving for the way things were may be a place to start. Read the article here. 

Having Issues Around Sex?

The first step towards solving issues around sex is talking. Talk about sex, often, to help with some of the awkwardness around it.
Read more here. 

April Showers...

The April newsletter went out on April 6th... Read it here. 

What Do You Fantasize About?

Let's not just talk about sex, but let's talk about what turns us on too!! Don't know? Or maybe you do, but you're embarrassed. Know what it is you fantasize about and then find a comfortable way to let your partner know. Like to be dominated? Your partner if they also like to be dominated, needs to know this to taylor specifically to you. Read the article I wrote here. 

Mindfulness Hypnosis

Currently attending the web conference Mindfulness and Hypnosis in Treating Depression Experientially.  I am excited to learn about the fascinating aspects of hypnosis, something I use in treatment regularly.

March Madness....

It's been a busy month in the world of Los Angeles Sex Therapy. I am not sure if it's the post Valentine's Day blues, but I have a sneaking suspicion that around this time of year, in a city which promotes couple hood, via the big screen but also promotes single hood, nightlife, sexuality and freedom, it's no wonder many are in a conundrum. The truth, you can have it all, you can have what you want, which is why I am here, to help you understand how to balance it all, know what you want, break down barriers and walls such as talking about sex, for starters, and then to make it all work. Visit my website for more info...

The March Newsletter came out on March 14th. Sorry I did not post it on here sooner. You can take a gander at it here. 

And my latest article for Good Therapy was about this phenomenon of ownership and blame in relationships. The key is to take responsibility for your role, and recognize it takes two to tango. Read the article here.

Public speaking/training mainly with students and interns. Last month, I spoke about building a private practice  at Secure Transitions, an agency that works with foster families a few weeks ago, and I did a talk on the importance of including talks about sex in your therapy, at Pepperdine University in Malibu just last week, I am available to speak at your facility or private event. Please email me at Mou@LASexTherapist.com if you're interested. Next week I will be speaking at IPSA, International Professional Surrogates Association, at one of their surrogate trainings. 

Finally, the movie Temples and Brothels is a project that is close to my heart, but takes a lot of time, effort and work, often times away from Los Angeles and my livelihood. Your contributions are greatly appreciated. 

Committed to LOVING. Are you?

I am committed to commitment, love, relationships, but I am also committed to helping you understand the type of dedication that goes into a successful relationship. They don't just happen. They aren't just born great. Sure, some people are more compatible that others based on training and experience but at the end of the day to keep a relationship flowing takes commitment.

Those little conscientious steps you take to show up for your partner on a DAILY basis are what make the relationship, but when I say DAILY, I mean daily. Do you want to focus on your career? On yourself? ON something else, then think twice before getting into a relationship. You don't have to be in one, if you cannot commit.

Here is my latest article. Change Your Mind and Open Your Heart I feel like I write the same article day in and day out. Different words, same message. How many different ways are there to say it? We'll see :-)
It just goes to show that my feeling on the subject never change. Having an open heart and mind are key to having a great relationship. Great relationships aren't born, they are made.

Best of luck to you today as you navigate your relationships by putting your most conscious foot forward.
Mou

The Elephant in the Room: Why We Need Full Disclosure in Sex Therapy

Successful treatment can take a while. A therapist can ask all the right questions, but the client may inadvertently leave the most important piece of information out for weeks or months, which can be the key to successful treatment and therapy. Building a rapport with your therapist is important and goes hand in hand  with the knowledge or feeling that your therapist is nonjudgmental while also carefully explains why certain behaviors and patterns may be surfacing.
Read my take on why it's so important to fully disclose in therapy  here. 

Send out your LOVE on Valentines Day!

Yep, tomorrow is Valentines Day, and my Facebook page is flooded with all sorts of positive and negative reminders about the existence of this day. Many love it, many hate it, and many love to hate it. Valentines Day is a commercial holiday designed for lovers, for romance, for our fascination with lust and romantic love, but this year I ask you to do something different. Of course, if you are in a relationship don't ignore your partner, technically I it's a day to celebrate your relationship, to let them know they're special, but it's also a day of love right? And, in my humble opinion, you should be letting your partner know everday how special they are, so Valentines Day should be no different.

I want to turn your attention to sex trafficking this very day. It is a catastrophe, based on a declining economic state of a world, to enslave mostly women sexually to men, (but also men) and not to mention the horrible abuse, humiliation and torture that goes along with it.. It's horrific and unless people get educated about what is happening nothing will change. Education, knowledge and information is the only way we can begin to get a handle on this world crime that is growing bigger by the day.

I've been making a film about positive sexuality. It's called Temples and Brothels, and the initial goal of the project was to inform about sex and religion practices towards acceptance, the breaking down of myths and therefor stigma. One of the main things we have been documenting is prostitution, specifically in legalized brothels where prostitutes are treated with respect and dignity, a lifestyle that is selected by choice. I thought the film was almost done. We'd spent 2011 visiting brothels and talking to prostitutes who also shared this positive view of sexuality. I knew about the trafficking going on but it wasn't until very recently that I felt that I could not make a film, about positive sexuality, about prostitution in legal brothels and completely leave out what is happening in the world with the sex trade and trafficking.

Therefor the film has taken a semi-sharp turn, and now I must return to SouthEast Asia to complete this film. I knew this would happen. Things just have a way of presenting themselves.

I usually take vacation in August and December. Working for myself I get to choose those times. This year instead of a vacation I feel the pull to get over there and find out what is going on, document it on film and then play it for you on the big screen. Education and knowledge are key.

I cannot do this without your help. My partner in crime, ie Producer, on this project is Chris Knitter, Founder of Overlooked Productions, together with him, a couple other camera people and educators Jenae Morgen and Raul Olivas, we've embarked on this journey, of investigative reporting on sex and religion.

We have a website, a facebook page, a twitter. We also have a campaign page where you can contribute money, every dollar helps us pay for expenses, but the biggest contribution you can give is by spreading the word. We're going to Asia, whether we raise the money or not, but the more money we raise, and the more people that know about it, the more comprehensive this project will end up being. Please help by spreading the word. That's all I want for Valentines Day.

As always, learning to be loving or as I call it OCCUPY LOVE is an everyday thing and a lifelong journey, not just for V-day but since it's the day for it here's my special Valentines Day newsletter with all the loving reminders you need.

In Love, Light and Lube,
Mou

What We Can Do To Embrace Love on Valentines Day

I like Valentines' Day, because I believe in LOVE. But not the kind of LOVE which requires marriage and paperwork and rules, not the kind of love that limits who you can look at, flirt with, be attracted to, not the kind of love that involves jealousy, insecurity, fear, or doubt. Not the kind of love that is prescribed by Hallmark, the makers of Valentines Day cards. I am talking about loving. Being open, and allowing for love to flow freely, like water, taking the path of least resistance that wants everyone to feel loved and to be happy. The kind of love that is self love but is self less, that is giving and openly receiving, the kind of love that is open and not closed.

I call it OCCUPY LOVE. Here are 5 ways in which you can do this....Read HERE.

Happy Anniversary to Los Angeles Sex Therapy

Los Angeles Sex Therapy opened our West Hollywood office, doors and our hearts to you, exactly 5 years ago today.  We are blessed and honored to be able to be here for you when you need, to provide guidance, and an ear when you need it the most. Our favorite part about the job is the love, we do this for love, not just sex, or relationships, but for the goal of spreading love, and understanding for all of humanity. Happy Anniversary to us and to you for joining us!!

Treating a Couple.... And why I Regressed....

I had an epiphany a couple of weeks ago. I was straying from my mindfulness training to treat a couple who I falsely assumed wanted only talk therapy. The reason I strayed was because a lot of people shy away from doing any sort of mind-body exercises in session. People come to therapy just wanting to talk. Talking is the original form of psychotherapy, and many people, when they sign up for therapy just want a place to vent, and bitch. I am cool with that. But being a believer in yoga, mediation and the like I found that getting people to relax in session, by guided breathing produced more insight, longer lasting results and most importantly change.  In my opinion, you can vent all you want but actual change comes from doing. I start with the breath. Breathing. In session. Yes.  I second guessed myself and strayed falsely thinking this couple just wanted to talk. The thing is that we are trained in talk therapy and we fear that people may judge us the airy-fairy hippie-dippie getting in touch with our feelings stuff. We want to be helpful to the client. But, this couple wasn't benefitting from our forced session and it hit me like a ton of bricks. I am a certified hypnotherapist also. The thing is that people seek out hypnotherapy. They want to quit smoking or to lose weight. But I treat relationship issues, and am a psychotherapist. People call me wanting to talk about their relationship. But when a couple or an individual stays with me for longer than just a few sessions, that's when the real work begins. I couple hypnotherapy, regression therapy and mindfulness training with traditional talk therapies. That is what I do. Mindfulness training is key and so useful in dealing with a multitude of issues. From sex and relationships, to confusion about career and life choices, to those persistent and pesky maladies of the mind like anxiety and depression, past-life regression therapy can also help heal the mind and body. Read HERE how I like to combine mindfulness training, with some regression therapy to heal not just sexual issues, but anxiety, depression and trauma. People really seem to appreciate this technique.

Today's FTM Radio Episode Postponed

Sorry for the last minute cancellation, but today's FTM episode on Sexy Talk radio has been postponed to a later date. I will update this blog when things are finalized so please do check back.
Thanks!
Mou

In Transit Your Guide to TransGender and Transitioning

This Thursday January 19, 2012 at 9AM PST (12 Noon EST) Welcome back Craig! Female to Male Transgender (FTM) Craig will be back on the air sharing with us insights from his transition process from a female to male, which he started exactly 3 years ago. Very insightful! Don't miss!


In Transit Your Guide to TransGender and Transitioning

New Year Resolutions... Hard to Keep...

Having a hard time keeping those New Years health and fitness resolutions. Tune in today for Part 2 with Monte Cox, health and fitness coach because being healthy and happy is the first step to being sexy!
Keep Your Healthy Resolutions in 2012. 

Hold Onto Your Power is my motto for you in 2012...

1. Hold on to your power. Follow the path in front of you, and recognize you will be okay if you do only what is needed in the moment. If you come to a fork in the road, follow your heart.
2.  Hold on to your power. Follow your vision. Hold steadfast to your dreams, values, passions, ideals. Believe in and be good to yourself.
3. Use your power for the greater good. Do what comes naturally to you, speak your mind and hold onto your power.
4. Hold onto your power. Even the greatest of mentors & teachers have nothing on your unique vision what you have to offer to the world. So do Share. Talk. Speak up. 
5. And read the article I wrote for Your Tango.com here...