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Thursday, December 31, 2009

Lesbians...


Remember these two? What happened to the two young sexy little Rockers from Russia, T.A.T.U?

What Women Say....To Their Girlfriends..An Interview I did for American Curves magazine.

How explicit do women get?

When a woman is talking to her best friend about her sexual experiences she is not very likely to go into detail about the actual technique of a man, the size of his penis, or anything that has to do with the visual. Unless of course, he was exceptional, IE. He had a washboard stomach, or his penis was especially large. Women are more likely to talk about how she felt and how he treated her. Did he say nice things to her? Did he talk dirty or sexy? She is more likely to report the smaller things than the details of the sex act itself.


Are they likely to talk about a man's size?

Yes and no. If the guy has an exceptionally large penis she may refer to him as "well endowed" or brag about how big he was but if he was smaller, or on the small side, she is more likely to focus on how well he did the other things. She will talk about his other techniques, for example "He really likes to use his hand, or his tongue."


Will they go into detail about his sexual technique and if they do to what
extent?


Girls, and women in our society are not taught to be graphic when it comes to talking about sex. This carries over to the bedroom, obviously and women, more than men seem to have a harder time telling their guy what to do, and how to do it. Similarly, when talking to their friends, they are more likely to speak ambiguously, and say things like, "He was well endowed." "He wasn't very big, but he really liked to use his hands/mouth," and just leave it at that.


Should a guy worry about his reputation as a lover?


Guys should worry, yes, but mainly if they have done something to hurt the woman (not in the bedroom) in the relationship. There is the old saying, "Hell has no fury like a woman scorned" well, it's true. If the woman is hurt (he never returned her calls, he dumped her, he cheated on her, etc..) then she is more likely to trash his reputation baring the details of his small penis, his inability to please her, his lack of technique in the bedroom, his lack of physique, etc..
In a situation where she has been hurt, every negative aspect in the bedroom has the risk of being aired to her friends.

Do they share complaints?

Single girls who are dating and not very serious with their guys are more likely to verbalize complaints they have about the guy in the bedroom. The more intimate the relationship, READ: and the more caring, loving and giving the guy is all around, the less likely are the women to spread disease about the style, technique, skill, size of their lover. Women in long term relationships are highly unlikely to openly discuss the details of their sex life. And married women of all women are the least likely to discuss anything having to do with their sex life. When women do complain about the sex, the size, the technique of a man, she is really complaining about the lack of connection she has with the guy overall, and their inability to please each other first on a mental/emotional and second on a physical level.

What are their most common complaints?


Women's most common complaints have to do with the fact that she feels the man is not trying hard enough. When there is an emotional imbalance she is likely to complain about it. She may complain about his inabilities, but If he is small, she will probably talk about that first. Women know that the size of a man's penis is a bone of contention with men, especially if it is small, therefor when she is upset, angry or hurt this is one of the easiest things to grab hold and attack, metaphorically speaking of course, "His penis was tiny anyway." Then if there were other issues like premature ejaculation or loss of erection, she will definitely throw those in there. "He couldn't even keep it up for longer than a minute." etc...These complaints are unlikely to be addressed outwardly with the world if the guy is a loving, caring, and giving guy.

What are they likely to share and what are they likely to hold back?

In the event that they want to air the dirty laundry of some poor chap, she will focus on the things that embarrass men the most, the size (if small), the inability to keep an erection and premature ejaculation, and may go into further details. Even if the two minutes is a normal ejaculation period for a man, this might be something she openly talks about "He couldn't even last for more than a minute." "He was the size of my pinky." Again, these thoughts are more likely to be shared if the encounter was casual, or if the couple is now broken up due to what she feels was some sort of injustice done to her. In a scenario where the woman is praising the man, she is likely to share things about technique, size, physique, but she will likely keep it vague. She may say things like "He is well endowed or big" but leave it at that. She may say that "He sure knows how to use it," but will leave it at that. "He really knows how to use his hands." "He loves to use his tongue." She will praise his physique if he has a good one and is more likely to speak in depth about that.


Should men worry about what they tell their friends?

A man should worry, yes, if he has done something wrong. If a woman feels she was wronged in anyway or taken advantage of she is more likely to speak negatively on the things that she knows are most important to a man's manhood. This usually indicates that she was hurt and is trying to protect her feelings by bad mouthing his manhood, thereby hurting him in return.

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