What is Foreplay? Traditionally we have come to think of foreplay as an act or series of acts, generally of the intimate kind, both psychological and physical between two or more people, having to do with sex and more specifically meant to increase sexual arousal at the moments in time when sex is about to occur and then to lead us into the sex act itself and ultimately leading to climax. "In human sexual behavior, foreplay is meant to create and increase sexual arousal, in anticipation of sexual intercourse," From Wikipedia...
However, I would like to suggest another idea that foreplay starts from the minute you wake up and continues on throughout the day, week, month etc.. culminating sometimes in sex and continuing to build and grow even after the sex act is over, or even if sex does not happen.
Wikipedia continues to say that foreplay is..."Any act that creates and enhances sexual stimulation between the sex partners may constitute foreplay, including kissing, touching, embracing, talking, and teasing (teasing, in this case, may include methods of satisfaction, such as erotic sexual denial). The manual or oral stimulation of erogenous zones may be considered foreplay, as well as being part of the sex act itself. Sexual role playing, fetish activities, and BDSM can also be considered foreplay, though they may also accompany intercourse and not just precede it." Generally speaking Wikipedia and most people think of and describe foreplay as the specific acts which precede sex to which I would like to add that the aforementioned gestures they mention such as touching, embracing, talking teasing, kissing, plus the gestures I'd like to add flirting, talking dirty, talking sexy should be used not only during traditional foreplay but continuously throughout the day and weaved into not just the sexual side of your relationship but into the life of your relationship as a whole, to create an ongoing atmosphere of passion and romance. In other words incorporating all those sexy things that you do right before sex into your daily world and relationship with your partner if you want to see your relationship blossom into the virginal flower of beauty and bliss it could and should be.
Those warm words spoken to each other as he is getting ready to go to work, is what the two of you will remember all day. Just because you have to rush off, feed the kids and take them to school and he is late for his board meeting and because there is absolutely no time for sex until date night on Saturday night does not mean your day today and every day cannot be lightly and gently infused with tiny visions of feathers and lingerie, honey and kisses floating in the air, every so often.
Small communications that let each other know how much you care, and also how much you desire them can do wonders, not to mention bring a smile to their face, a tingle to the spine and yes, maybe even butterflies to the stomach. Leaving little post it notes that he/she can read when you are not around, voice mails, emails, text messages with sexy, romantic, loving, appreciative words can let a warm glow into someone's stressful or even humdrum day and leave them eager to arrive home to see you. No, it might not lead to sex tonight, nor tomorrow night, and maybe not even this weekend, but that is not the point. It will lead you home.
Body language is important in foreplay too. A smile, a wink, a gentle touch on the arm even when you are in a hurry to get to your meeting shows you care and leaves an imprint, a fond imprint that can not only lead to increased desire and arousal, but can also shield you two from the days when the rest of the world may bring you down.
These are all a part of foreplay, and things like kissing and touching which can increase the temperature and speed of your arousal leading to sex can also increase the passion and warmth between you and your mate leading to a more fulling and satisfying relationship all around.
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