Happy Thanksgiving to ALL

I had an amazing Thanksgiving in Oakland, CA. I spent the evening with two old friends Netty and Jenoa. We had a wonderful dinner and talk which will be available via video on Vimeo and You Tube, entitled Fuctuation: Bisexuality in the Lesbian World with Jenoa and Netty. Look for it.

Male Sexual Arousal Module

We learned in Dr. Patti Britton's module #3 on Saturday: Multiple orgasm for men. Gotta check out this video and present Maxwell if you get a chance...You will love it. So will the ladies ♥
Maxwell Multiple Climax

Don't Miss This Saturday, it's Sexy Saturday!!

Sexy Saturday's at Liberace's Penthouse's presents Myofascial Release Healing Circle. This Saturday November 20, 2010 at 11AM!!

You can RSVP for this Saturdays workshop on Facebook ...

Or you can RSVP by emailing me directly at Mou@LASexTherapist.com

Menage a Trois Interrupted

Speaking tonight at Alliant University in Southern California. Giving the non monogamy talk to graduate students in the psychology programs.

And the Sexxiness goes on...

I've got a bunch of other cool things brewing too.


I've teamed up with Shai Rotem, Surrogate Partner and we will be bringing you an ongoing series of workshops designed to enlighten your mind and body for a more sensual and sexual experience. Expect these in February of 2011.



And, have you ever considered hiring a Sex Therapist to speak at your bridal shower or bachelor-ette party? Want a more intellectually stimulating, informative and interesting way to spend your last days of single-hood, and learning about marital bliss romance sex till death do you part? My colleague and fellow sexologist Gila Shapiro, MFT and myself are teaming up to engage you and your gal pals minds with honest genuine sex talk to help you get the most of your sexuality as it grows and flourishes within your marriage! Enquire about this, email me: moushumighose@gmail.com


xoxo Mou

Sexy Saturdays at Liberace's Penthouse

Don't forget to visit the website for Sexy Saturday, I've got so many special speakers and cool events lined up all the way through May of 2011. From acupuncturist/naturapath to hypnotherapists and art therapists, not to mention CEU's for MFTs and LCSWs, a marketing course coming in April and the Holiday shebang next month which won't be on a Saturday but on a Sexy Thursday instead.
I so hope to see you at one of these events!!

xoxo Mou

Supervision and Workshops

Working on my Sex Therapist certification through AASECT, the American Association of Sex Educators Counselors and Therapists.
And I've been attending these wonderful workshops with Patti Britton, PhD through ISH, or the Institute of Sexual Health in Beverly Hills. Though the institute focuses on sexual addictions my training is in the broader field of sexology, as Patti's speciatly.

As sexologists and sex therapists, addictions are just one of the many things represented in the hats we wear. Sex addiction is the therapy du jour right now, very popular made by the folks such as Tiger Woods and David Duchovny, LA Times yesterday told us what a thriving industry sex addiction treatment is. Yes, maybe true. I want to point out that not all sex therapists are sex addiction specialists and vice verse. And though most sex therapists are well schooled in 12 step and addiction treatment, addiction models tend to be more pathology oriented.
My work here at Los Angeles Sex Therapy is solution focused and goal oriented.

I love Couples Therapy...why its better than individual counseling...

One of the most common sexual concerns that women complain of when it comes to sex is a lack of arousal or low desire. This does seem to be more common in women who are in their 20’s and often we may see these resolve themselves as women get older. It’s been said that women reach their sexual peak in their mid to late 30’s and yes, this can explain part of this phenomenon. According to the medical beliefs, women bloom later when it comes to sexuality. Physiology is one factor, but this is not always nor the only reason we see low desire or low arousal in females. Many other factors can contribute to low sexual desire in females, ranging from depression to anxiety to fear, anger, resentment, guilt, or shame.

The same is true of men. True, physiologically speaking men’s testosterone levels dip as they get older. It is suggested that men reach their sexual peak around 21. Although low sexual desire is not the most common of male sexual disorders, men do often present with erectile issues which, include early ejaculation or erectile dysfunction (ED) which often have the same contributing factors I mentioned above.

When low arousal or low desire presents itself in the relationship it is also very common that the individual taking on most of the blame is the person whose body is affected. If she is the one not producing natural lubrication then she must be the one at fault, and vice versa. If his erections are the one in question then he is the one who must be fixed. Unfortunately this thinking then too often leads one individual, the broken one to present for counseling or therapy, by him or herself, individually. In my opinion this is problematic two-fold. For one, the individual who is going to therapy, is the person that is getting better, the one more likely to be making positive changes in their life, and most often this is happening alone. The other person is not present and is not joining her on the journey. And two, this places blame, or fault and suggests that one person is sick, broken, or at “fault”, while the other is well, and “right.” One is good, the other bad. You get the idea. Ideally, if there are problems in the relationship, sexual or not, couples problems should never be placed on one individual. The couple should make it a point to attend together to see how each is influencing the other. The relationship is a dance and it takes two to tango.

Even in a situation where one partner is dealing with some personal issues, such as childhood trauma or abuse, which may not involve his/her partner directly, and may or may not be sexual in nature I still always strongly suggest having the partner at least minimally involved. Therapy involves sharing intimate parts of yourself, and this will likely have its effect on the individual, will facilitate change and growth and also may indirectly affect the relationship. I encourage couples to grow together, not apart.

©Copyright 2010 by Moushumi Ghose (Wilson), MFT

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