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Jessica Drake's Guide to Wicked Sex With Kelly Shibari

In honor of the end of summer, The Sex Talk aired the last episode shot poolside at Liberace's Penthouse, Kelly Shibari discussing her newest #sex ed videos :  Jessica Drake's Guide to Wicked Sex, making them and what's in them, plus she talks about being a chubby chaser!!

The Sex Talk - Promo Video

Looks like another promo video, filled with hilarity and bloopers and behind the scenes funniness. More episodes are on their way!! We promise :-)

Stop Dragging That Baggage Around....

Too often we get into new relationships thinking "we are going to make it better this time," but then fall into old patterns. What gives? Read my article on how we drag baggage around, and how to change it here...

Saying No....Because You Want to Take It Slow..

When we really like someone, we might want to do things differently, like take it slow, give time for some heat to build, really get to know them more, and then the sex will be that much better, right? It's okay, to say, "NO, I really think you are so hot, but I wanna take it slow!"

This week on the Sex Talk with the fabulous Jenoa Harlow!

Temples and Brothels: Same Sex Marriage, Monogamy and More.... with Eric Schneider

Last week I interviewed good friend and NYC's premier sex therapist to gay men, Eric Schneider. Here's some stuff we talked about: 

Same Sex Marriage. Is same sex marriage normalizing an otherwise sexually explorative and expressive gay community?

-Alienation. How when we as a society create an ideal, such as monogamous marriage in this case, we effectively alienate everything else which does not fall into those narrow confines. This creates a lot of difficulty as people become more focused on maintaining an ideal, than actually keeping it real.

-Confusing Monogamy As Safety. It is second nature or intuitive in our culture to use monogamy as a source of safety. Eric reminds us that just because a couple deems themselves monogamous, does not actually make a safe environment. Rather honesty, openness, and trust create safety. And our false reliance on monogamy as an ideal actually perpetuates dishonesty and therefor perhaps creates a lack of safety.

We have a great discussion on monogamy and heterosexuality as conditioning, when in actuality there are many choices and options.

Pop on over to our blog at Temples and Brothels to find out what else will be in our upcoming documentary project.

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Our Obsession With Bigger and Better.

In this episode we break down why sometimes dating can be so difficult in this day and age.

Telemedicine .... The Future is Here....

Check out my article on telemedecine, I wrote for my other blog.

Temples and Brothels Update

Temples and Brothels crew, were in NYC last week. This past weekend, we had the privilege to shoot Mina Caputo, TransGender front woman for the band Life of Agony. Such an inspirational women, and artist. Catch this interview and many more in the upcoming documentary film, and see the true sexuality of America.  Temples and Brothels Facebook Page 
Read the blogpost here....

BDSM Couple Discusses Their Trilogy...

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J.R. Luxor, best selling author in Amazon's sexuality category, is the nom de plume of the binary star that is a husband and wife writing team living in the San Francisco Bay Area. She is currently a life coach and he is an author formerly involved in psychology and counseling teenage girls.


They share the character development, choosing what's in the heads of the male and female characters. They say their technique of using separate male and female voices for the characters, especially in their unspoken thoughts, produces a multi-dimensionality to the interactions and connections of the men and women in their writings. 

Submissives Caught on Camera, by J.R. Luxor, follows the lives of four couples in the San Francisco Bay Area who practice BDSM in their sex lives, sometimes, to varying degrees, with each other. This is the third of a series, beginning with BDSM Romance, How One Man Recruited and Trained a Sub, and then Wearing His Collar, the View from Below. In Camera, the four couples decide to make a video of one of their events, their sex parties. Not every woman of the four has sex with men other than her partner. The couples have different arrangements for their sexual interactions with others.

Asexuality

Some people do not experience sexual desire in their lives. It's normal, and it's okay. Check out this weeks episode on Asexuality.
 

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Same Sex Marriage

We want to hear your thoughts? Has same sex marriage changed the sexual freedom of the gay community?

8% of Couples Had A Threesome Last Night, Did You?

I am so excited to announce my first teleseminar ever is coming August 12.
8PM Easter, 5PM Pacific $45

Lifestyles from Monogamy to Non-Monogamy

This phone call class will address the gamut of alternatives to monogamy, such as open relationships, threesomes, polyamory, swinging, etc.

Learn how to navigate the waters, how to meet like-minded people, how to approach your monogamous partner, how to figure out which lifestyle is best for you, how to address jealousy what rules to think about, and more.  Sign up now! 

August 12, 2014 5PM Pacific, 8PM Eastern

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$45 Seminar Only - This will be available to you online for 45 days.

$55 Seminar plus CD- Includes a CD for your library.

$165 Seminar plus one private 50 minute coaching call with Mou (this is a 45% discount)

$325 Seminar plus three private 50 minute coaching calls with Mou (65% discount)

Sign up now and get discounted phone sessions with me, and more.

The Sex Talk - Nudity Can Help With Body Image and More!!

The Pressure to Be in A Long Term Relationship is NOT GOOD!

LTR - Long Term Relationships
In our society, success is often based on being in a long term relationship, that lasts a life time. We put a lot of emphasis on building relationships and staying in them, even when the grow sour, or when we stop growing. We feel bad when relationships end. We often feel as though we failed in some way. Mou and Jenoa remind us that it is okay to say goodbye when something is over. It is okay, and in fact it may be good for you to walk away from something that no longer works for you. We can acknowledge what we learned from a relationship. 

The Sex Talk is a weekly webisode that discusses sex, relationships, dating and more. with my co-host Jenoa Harlow. We encourage thinking in terms that are good for you, not for the larger society. 

Music and Sexuality! Feminism and Gender!!

Hi!
My musical project Ghosha writes, sings, plays and supports sexuality, gender issues. Here is a video we did addressing some of the gender-binary notions coupled with traditional relationship issues, like secrets, women and men's roles, feminism etc..

If you could do us a favor, like us and follow us, we'd be forever grateful!
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Enjoy!!!

Threesomes and Mindfulness.....

Is there anything better than a mindful threesome? I can't think of anything!

Read this awesome article, by Jessica Graham, in which I am quoted, and then also check out her Mindful Sex series. Good stuff!!

Kelly Shibari on Porn and Body Image.

Kelly Shibari is back on The Sex Talk, filmed at the Liberace Penthouse in West Hollywood, CA, she talked to us about being the first BBW (big beautiful woman) asian, plus size porn star to be on the cover of Penthouse Forum. She talks about body image, (girls take heed), about what it means to be a flashlight girl, and how she got into porn in the first place. Go watch it! We love Kelly!!

 

New York City

I've been in New York City one month and one week. The 2nd book is finally started!! I have been thinking about this book for two years, and wrote the article back in January on New Years Day. Boy, time flies. With all the clients I was seeing, and teaching at the University, I had no time at all to even take a gander at writing. So, now the beginnings have started, and yes the book will be ultimately seeking a home, aka a publisher, but we know it's a process. (We is Jenoa and I, she will be collaborating with me on the way. )

This book is about Casual Sex, Hook Up Culture, One Night Stands, Non Monogamous Sex. You get the picture!! Who couldn't use a guide book for all kinds of sex??

In the meantime, I have submerged myself in film making duties.  Lining up interviews in the New York area. Interviews should start in August.

I am still offering consulting and mentoring services, mostly via phone, and online. Hit me up if you want some tips!

I will also be posting some more videos and articles as well!!

Hope you had an amazing 4th! Enjoy your summer!!!

Serial Monogamy

This week on The Sex Talk we talk about Serial Monogamy, aka Car Jumping.
Do you do this? If so, here are some things to look into.