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Jessica Drake's Guide to Wicked Sex With Kelly Shibari

In honor of the end of summer, The Sex Talk aired the last episode shot poolside at Liberace's Penthouse, Kelly Shibari discussing her newest #sex ed videos :  Jessica Drake's Guide to Wicked Sex, making them and what's in them, plus she talks about being a chubby chaser!!

The Sex Talk - Promo Video

Looks like another promo video, filled with hilarity and bloopers and behind the scenes funniness. More episodes are on their way!! We promise :-)

Stop Dragging That Baggage Around....

Too often we get into new relationships thinking "we are going to make it better this time," but then fall into old patterns. What gives? Read my article on how we drag baggage around, and how to change it here...

Saying No....Because You Want to Take It Slow..

When we really like someone, we might want to do things differently, like take it slow, give time for some heat to build, really get to know them more, and then the sex will be that much better, right? It's okay, to say, "NO, I really think you are so hot, but I wanna take it slow!"

This week on the Sex Talk with the fabulous Jenoa Harlow!

Temples and Brothels: Same Sex Marriage, Monogamy and More.... with Eric Schneider

Last week I interviewed good friend and NYC's premier sex therapist to gay men, Eric Schneider. Here's some stuff we talked about: 

Same Sex Marriage. Is same sex marriage normalizing an otherwise sexually explorative and expressive gay community?

-Alienation. How when we as a society create an ideal, such as monogamous marriage in this case, we effectively alienate everything else which does not fall into those narrow confines. This creates a lot of difficulty as people become more focused on maintaining an ideal, than actually keeping it real.

-Confusing Monogamy As Safety. It is second nature or intuitive in our culture to use monogamy as a source of safety. Eric reminds us that just because a couple deems themselves monogamous, does not actually make a safe environment. Rather honesty, openness, and trust create safety. And our false reliance on monogamy as an ideal actually perpetuates dishonesty and therefor perhaps creates a lack of safety.

We have a great discussion on monogamy and heterosexuality as conditioning, when in actuality there are many choices and options.

Pop on over to our blog at Temples and Brothels to find out what else will be in our upcoming documentary project.

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Our Obsession With Bigger and Better.

In this episode we break down why sometimes dating can be so difficult in this day and age.

Telemedicine .... The Future is Here....

Check out my article on telemedecine, I wrote for my other blog.

Temples and Brothels Update

Temples and Brothels crew, were in NYC last week. This past weekend, we had the privilege to shoot Mina Caputo, TransGender front woman for the band Life of Agony. Such an inspirational women, and artist. Catch this interview and many more in the upcoming documentary film, and see the true sexuality of America.  Temples and Brothels Facebook Page 
Read the blogpost here....

BDSM Couple Discusses Their Trilogy...

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J.R. Luxor, best selling author in Amazon's sexuality category, is the nom de plume of the binary star that is a husband and wife writing team living in the San Francisco Bay Area. She is currently a life coach and he is an author formerly involved in psychology and counseling teenage girls.


They share the character development, choosing what's in the heads of the male and female characters. They say their technique of using separate male and female voices for the characters, especially in their unspoken thoughts, produces a multi-dimensionality to the interactions and connections of the men and women in their writings. 

Submissives Caught on Camera, by J.R. Luxor, follows the lives of four couples in the San Francisco Bay Area who practice BDSM in their sex lives, sometimes, to varying degrees, with each other. This is the third of a series, beginning with BDSM Romance, How One Man Recruited and Trained a Sub, and then Wearing His Collar, the View from Below. In Camera, the four couples decide to make a video of one of their events, their sex parties. Not every woman of the four has sex with men other than her partner. The couples have different arrangements for their sexual interactions with others.

Asexuality

Some people do not experience sexual desire in their lives. It's normal, and it's okay. Check out this weeks episode on Asexuality.
 

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Same Sex Marriage

We want to hear your thoughts? Has same sex marriage changed the sexual freedom of the gay community?

8% of Couples Had A Threesome Last Night, Did You?

I am so excited to announce my first teleseminar ever is coming August 12.
8PM Easter, 5PM Pacific $45

Lifestyles from Monogamy to Non-Monogamy

This phone call class will address the gamut of alternatives to monogamy, such as open relationships, threesomes, polyamory, swinging, etc.

Learn how to navigate the waters, how to meet like-minded people, how to approach your monogamous partner, how to figure out which lifestyle is best for you, how to address jealousy what rules to think about, and more.  Sign up now! 

August 12, 2014 5PM Pacific, 8PM Eastern

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$45 Seminar Only - This will be available to you online for 45 days.

$55 Seminar plus CD- Includes a CD for your library.

$165 Seminar plus one private 50 minute coaching call with Mou (this is a 45% discount)

$325 Seminar plus three private 50 minute coaching calls with Mou (65% discount)

Sign up now and get discounted phone sessions with me, and more.

The Sex Talk - Nudity Can Help With Body Image and More!!

The Pressure to Be in A Long Term Relationship is NOT GOOD!

LTR - Long Term Relationships
In our society, success is often based on being in a long term relationship, that lasts a life time. We put a lot of emphasis on building relationships and staying in them, even when the grow sour, or when we stop growing. We feel bad when relationships end. We often feel as though we failed in some way. Mou and Jenoa remind us that it is okay to say goodbye when something is over. It is okay, and in fact it may be good for you to walk away from something that no longer works for you. We can acknowledge what we learned from a relationship. 

The Sex Talk is a weekly webisode that discusses sex, relationships, dating and more. with my co-host Jenoa Harlow. We encourage thinking in terms that are good for you, not for the larger society. 

Music and Sexuality! Feminism and Gender!!

Hi!
My musical project Ghosha writes, sings, plays and supports sexuality, gender issues. Here is a video we did addressing some of the gender-binary notions coupled with traditional relationship issues, like secrets, women and men's roles, feminism etc..

If you could do us a favor, like us and follow us, we'd be forever grateful!
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Enjoy!!!

Threesomes and Mindfulness.....

Is there anything better than a mindful threesome? I can't think of anything!

Read this awesome article, by Jessica Graham, in which I am quoted, and then also check out her Mindful Sex series. Good stuff!!

Kelly Shibari on Porn and Body Image.

Kelly Shibari is back on The Sex Talk, filmed at the Liberace Penthouse in West Hollywood, CA, she talked to us about being the first BBW (big beautiful woman) asian, plus size porn star to be on the cover of Penthouse Forum. She talks about body image, (girls take heed), about what it means to be a flashlight girl, and how she got into porn in the first place. Go watch it! We love Kelly!!

 

New York City

I've been in New York City one month and one week. The 2nd book is finally started!! I have been thinking about this book for two years, and wrote the article back in January on New Years Day. Boy, time flies. With all the clients I was seeing, and teaching at the University, I had no time at all to even take a gander at writing. So, now the beginnings have started, and yes the book will be ultimately seeking a home, aka a publisher, but we know it's a process. (We is Jenoa and I, she will be collaborating with me on the way. )

This book is about Casual Sex, Hook Up Culture, One Night Stands, Non Monogamous Sex. You get the picture!! Who couldn't use a guide book for all kinds of sex??

In the meantime, I have submerged myself in film making duties.  Lining up interviews in the New York area. Interviews should start in August.

I am still offering consulting and mentoring services, mostly via phone, and online. Hit me up if you want some tips!

I will also be posting some more videos and articles as well!!

Hope you had an amazing 4th! Enjoy your summer!!!

Serial Monogamy

This week on The Sex Talk we talk about Serial Monogamy, aka Car Jumping.
Do you do this? If so, here are some things to look into.

Kissing and Cunnilingus Do's and Don'ts

Celebrating Women of Color and Sexuality

I am going to be speaking at this event as one of the panelists. 

July 12, 2014, 905 Atlantic Ave, BKLYN, NYC!

$15

Get your tickets at 

http://www.eventbrite.com/e/kinks-come-out-at-night-tickets-11081269375

What is Lesbian Sex?

We can learn a lot from lesbian sex. Women are complex and don't need penetration or even orgasm to feel good. This week on The Sex Talk!

Hot to Have Healthy Hookups

My latest article addresses reasons why we might second guess our hook ups, and looks at "slut shaming" and hook-up-culture bashing as culprits, and gives reminders on how to date and hook up in a healthy way. Read the article here.

New Office Coming SOON!

Hi! I am in the process of moving and opening up my home office in the SOHO district of Manhattan, New York City, so sorry if I have been a bit MIA.

Yes, after 16 years in Los Angeles, I have come to NYC to work on my next book (a collaboration with Ms Jenoa Harlow my co-host of The Sex Talk), plus I am working on developing a few mentorship programs on the art of zen dating and how to be a better lover and partner. I hope to have some new material up and ready for you in the next few weeks, as well as the office too. So stay tuned.

In the meantime, here is one of my favorite topics still: Codependence, and How to Avoid Being Codependent. featuring Jenoa Harlow and myself on our web series, The Sex Talk. Subscribe FREE. New episodes coming soon!!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0PzDX30gdoc&list=LLznqs906NdWgWA5GspY5X0w

Are you sure you want to bill insurance?

It feels like more and more people are eager to bill their insurance company for their psychological services. I want to ask you, are you "mentally ill?" If not you should really reconsider. Here is my thoughts on this.....    READ MY DISCLAIMER

Spice Box!

Spicy Subscriptions has a new Spice Box which I had the pleasure of reviewing. Indeed! Read the review here...

My Interview on Channel 36

In this video, on Sin- Sational Hot Nights with Laraine Stuart, a show on Channel 36, West Hollywood Public Access TV. Topics discussed are threesomes, dating, kissing, using your tongue, BDSM, S&M, fetishes, fantasies and consent between adults, and communicating with your partner.

Plus Size Porn Star Kelly Shibari On The Sex Talk

We finally shot an episode of The Sex Talk at The Liberace Penthouse-
("lots of gay sex happened here in secret"-Jenoa) where I hold a lot of sex therapy workshops.

This time we interview Kelly Shibari the first plus size porn star who made the cover of Penthouse Forum, and of course we talk porn, body image, media and more. This is the first of 4 interviews, so subscribe FREE now!!

Why You Should Not Ignore The Symptoms of Pain During Intercourse...

Vaginismus or painful intercourse can have detrimental effects.... read the article I wrote for Your Tango, here...

Sex Therapy, Fetishes and Threesomes on Public Access TV

Last night I had the pleasure to be interviewed by Laraine Stuart on her show, Sin-Sational Hot Nights! on Channel 36, Public Access TV in West Hollywood. Here is a shot from the editing bay.

Using Sex as A Weapon

Are you withholding sex from you partner? Are you rewarding with sex?
Why you shouldn't is revealed in this weeks episode of The Sex Talk. Please subscribe to our channel. It's free!

Relationship Makeovers at Anniversaries!

We are back with The Sex Talk. In this episode we discuss having a meeting on your anniversary, kind of like having a relationship makeover or overhaul.

Check it out :
 

Conscious Coupling on Hollywood Today Live

What does Conscious Uncoupling mean? It's really based off the concept that as humans we are not meant to be monogamous. Check out my talk yesterday from Hollywood Today Live.

Tomorrow at 11AM PST - I'll be discussing Gwyneth Paltrow's Divorce

Here's the article on Conscious Uncoupling, and I'll be doing the honors on Hollywood Today at 11AM Wednesday, March 26th!
Tune in!

Summer Flings

I've been on a lovely vacation with my partner in crime, in Mexico for most of the month, but now I am back and just in time for SPRING BREAK! Today on The Girl Spot the ladies and I chat about SUMMER FLINGS. Check it out here: 

Introducing Amie Harwick, MFT Intern

As it often happens when you have been in practice for so long, 8 years to be exact, and with that a full plate, which leads me to my next step.... I am going on hiatus at the end of May only taking on a handful new clients.

In the process I am shifting my practice to a more mobile practice so I can have session remotely with those who are open to the idea, or still interested in working with me. I will be traveling and on the road quite a bit, in order to participate in more media projects, but will still see/talk to clients via phone/facetime or Skype.

In my practice however is Amie Harwick, MFT Intern, who works directly with me, and she is gladly taking on new clients. Amie has been working with me for almost one year and brings a fresh new perspective to sex therapy. Amie also has a new book coming out, The New Sex Bible for Women. Check it out, and check out her Author Page, and email her if you want some great Sex Therapy!

Thank You For Attending the Anal Workshop at The Liberace Penthouse!

What a huge turn out and success Friday night was. Over 50 people showed up to watch the anal demon what is quickly becoming the most popular sex education class in West Hollywood. ;-) Thanks to Damon Holzum Sex Educator for his expertise, and Eric Leue Eagle LA Leather Man 2014 for the use of his bod for demo purposes.  Damon spends about 45 minutes discussing proper lube and positions for success and then does a live demo. What a great night! Thanks to everyone for showing up!! And for the last minute volunteers who helped set up, collect emails, etc.  

Initiating A Threesome with a Hot Sexy Couple

When you know you like a couple.... how do you tell them? This week on The Sex Talk.

The Sex Talk - Sex Out of The Box

This week on The Sex Talk, we discuss all the things around sex, that lead up to sex, that help you create a sexual lifestyle. It's not just about the sex act. It's a holistic approach. Feng Shui your sex life!

Valentine's Day Do's and Don'ts on Bite Size TV at The Girl Spot

This month on Bite Size TV I discuss Valentine's Day Do's and Don'ts. Check out the episode here: 

Men's Arousal Issues

Loss of erection? Coming too soon? Hmm... It might all be in your head. This week on The Sex Talk. Don't forget to pop by and subscribe to our channel for FREE!!

Why You Might Want Your Ex Back, and What to Do About It!

Why do you want your ex back? Here are some things to consider. This week on The Sex Talk! Subscribe FREE! New episodes every week!

Advanced Anal at the Liberace Penthouse Coming Feb 21st!

You asked for it, now you're gonna get it!
Sex Educator, Damon Holzum will be teaching (and I will be hosting) one of his fabulous and highly in demand buttshops at the Liberace Penthouse.
RSVP to the Facebook Event here: 

Sexual Rejection on The Sex Talk

Sexual Rejection over time can lead to shame about sexuality. Watch this video! And SUBSCRIBE to our channel FREE!

XBIZ Los Angeles, this week.

I'll be attending the XBIZ conference, here in  Los Angeles, this week.
A trade conference dedicated to decoding the future of erotica through unparalleled seminars featuring studio executives, creative visionaries and performers.

Group Sex, Foursome and Orgy Etiquette on The Sex Talk

The Benefits of Surrogate Partner Therapy

You may have read it before, but my article on Surrogate Partner Therapy got published on PsychCentral this morning.  Check it out, if you haven't already!

Sex Toys on The Girl Spot

Breaking down Sex Toys this week on The Girl Spot on Bite Size TV. Check it out!

Love Addiction -The Sex Talk

Jenoa and I break down and even self disclose a bit of Love Addiction this week on The Sex Talk.
Too many, too little boundaries, co-dependence and other patterns which make up Love Addiction.

Sex Addiction

In this episode Jenoa and I take a look at sex addiction, what it means, and what we think of the label when it comes to treatment.
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