Hillary Clinton's AIDS-Free Generation

I am quoted in this article. Please read on....

AIDS-free America? According to the experts, it could happen.

Yesterday, just two days before World AIDS Day, Hillary Clinton rolled out plans to help rid the world of AIDS. While efforts will focus largely in sub-Saharan Africa, where providing access to medication is a major priority, we're not off the hook at home.

No big O?

Are you worried about hurting their feelings? How do you tell your partner, without hurting their feelings. of course, that you are not Orgasming? Dealing with these issues sensitively is important, but also key is to realize that your needs matter too. Don't be shy. Stand up for yourself!! Read my response here.

Is he a 30 second guy?

It's always kind of a joke in our culture, about the 1 minute man, or the 30 second guy, but this is a source of humiliation for men, it's not something men are proud of, it's embarrassing and can be a downer for the relationship. However, at the end of the day it's also an aspect of sexuality that can be healed. 

Going in with mutual respect and admiration is always going to be more helpful than criticizing, nagging, taking it personally. 

This weeks question on Get Lusty addresses this very issue. Read the article here.

Sex with the Lights Off Only Please...

There is something hot and steamy about sex... in the dark. But sometimes sex with the light on can be hot, too yet, not everyone is comfortable with this scenario. What are the reasons for this? Could it be body image? Could it be messages about sex we received that tell us this is taboo, not allowed, dirty or secret? Check out my video : How to Be Comfortable Naked on the Your Tango Experts home page here!

5 Reasons Couples Enter Sex Therapy

Get Lusty published my article on the Top 5 Reasons Couples Get Sex Therapy. Read the article here.

Newsletter For November

My monthly newsletter came out in email boxes everywhere today. You can read it HERE. You may also want to stop by my website and subscribe. It's FREE!

Kissing is HOT!

I love kissing, not necessarily as a form of foreplay, but as a beautiful way of connecting for two individuals which read: DOES NOT always need to be followed by sex. I strongly recommend kissing just for the sake of it, because it really is a huge turn on.

Kissing is a great way for couples who have lost their way when it comes to passion and romance to bring some of that excitement back. Kissing is also great to maintain intimacy in relationships, and to build a connection if you're new together.

Here is a video I did for Your Tango on teaching your partner How to Kiss, in the event that kissing is a little awkward, which let's face it, sometimes it can be. The good news is that you too can learn to be a better kisser. Do it!!

Taking Charge of Your Sex Life

The Frisky, celebrity and lifestyle zine on the web recently picked up my video "Taking Charge of Your Sex Life," which is a video I initially did for Your Tango, a celebrity and lifestyle webzine for which I am a regular contributor. The video talks about situations in which you may be feeling a little out of step with your partner, what some causes are and how to remedy this situation.  Check out the video and article here.

Many of my sex therapy / education videos and articles can be found at Your Tango, so please do check those out as well.

The State of Affairs and the State of California

Today, I woke up to find that Obama is still president.  I am relieved.

I also found out that Measure B passed, which will require adult entertainment actors (I.E, porn stars) to wear condoms. Do Californians know what this means? These measures are tricky. They advocate for safe sex, which everyone advocates for however, most people don't read the fine print. Porn is entertainment, not sex education, for one. In this arena we are exchanging something that is supposed to be there solely for entertainment, READ: we like watching raunchy, wild untethered sex, into something that sets an example for others. Tisk Tisk California. What we need is more Sex Education, not condoms on porn stars! On an economic level, this is going to be terrible for California's economy. Porn is huge in Southern California, and many of the actors will be losing jobs, as porn may now take to another state. I thought Californians wanted their economy to recover. More stringent laws also means pushing things underground, which means bigger black market which means more illegal business, more violence and more crimes. This might be a scary time for California.

Proposition 35 passed too. More stringent laws for Sex traffickers? Sounds like a good idea, but sex traffickers already get punished. This doesn't make sense at all. More stringent laws is not the answer. These measures and propositions are going to set our state back. This particular proposition is a scam to punish:   
"innocent people by broadening the definition of pimping: anyone receiving financial support from consensual prostitution among adults, including a sex worker's children or spouse, could be prosecuted as a human trafficker. If convicted, they would have to register as a sex offender for life.

The measure could be challenged as unconstitutional for its vague definition of human trafficking that would include the "intent to distribute obscene matter," possibly for "cruel and unusual" punishments including excessive prison terms and fines, and for inhibiting a defendant's right to introduce evidence in defense trials.It will cost the state even more through increased workloads in probation departments and through new training for police." (from KCET.org)

What does this mean for me today? I broke down in tears, somewhat fearful of where this state is going. I remember the days of Bill Clinton, the country seemed to be moving forward, but now what? 
Now what? As a sex therapist and sex educator I have my work cut out for me. 

You're Gonna Have to Face it...

You're addicted to love! It's true, those are the lyrics from a Robert Palmer song in the 80's but ironically today a new classification of emotional addiction has emerged, called love addiction.

What exactly is love addiction? Well it's a term to describe compulsive behaviors that may result from fear of being alone, or of needed attention and affection. It's the compulsive seeking of attention and companionship which can be spiritually unhealthy for the soul, as well as developmentally for emotional growth.
Check out my article about Love Addiction here, and find out what it is and how to overcome it.