Sex and The Holidays for Couples

Here are some quick tips to keep the excitement bubbling this holiday season:

The holidays may be a hectic and busy time for many of us here in the Western world. Although many people have time off, the kids are also off school, the relatives are demanding of our time, plus there is the gift giving, the gift shopping, gift wrapping, the shopping crowds, the parties, attending dinners and work events, not to mention stress about things like money, holiday travel, weight gain frustrations from all the decadent eating and drinking, and so on. It’s a wonder we have any time at all to nourish our partners and relationships, let alone our sex lives.

For the busy holidays, I’ve compiled a list of things you can do to squeeze in some sexy time for you and your partner.

 

1. Sexy holiday Santa/elf outfit. Surprise your honey in your favorite night gown, slip or sexy lingerie of choice, preferably in the color red, but not necessary, and don the old red Santa’s hat. As Santa’s little helper you can decide if your partner has been naughty or nice. Let him know that his wish is your command if he’s been nice. Or perhaps you’ve been the naughty one. Use chocolates or cherries to enhance the evening by making it more delicious. Either way, this play on traditional Christmas can be sexy and fun.
2. Warm bath with Pine scented bath salts.  Your baby has been working hard. Offer to help relieve some stress tonight. Pine scented bath salts not only help one to relax but also inspire the winter holiday warmth. So, after the kids have gone to bed, and the pet’s have been fed, offer to run a bath for your loved one. Turn on the hot water, light some candles, make some hot tea and entice your baby into the hot scented relaxing bath water.
3. Almond oil massage. Is your partner so pooped they’ve tuned you out and are solely focused on watching news or sports on the boob tube? This light massage can be done while they are relaxing. Rub some massage oil or scented lotion on your hands first, then on your partner’s hands and feet. Massage gently.  This is a low maintenance way of inspiring tenderness and then passion after a long and stressful week.
4. Quiet time reading. Reading to each other can be exotic and erotic if the material is sexually charged. Find an erotic novel, turn on the fireplace (if you have one) and curl up together with a blanket and read to each other. The friction and the heat between you two will be undeniable.

These are just a few ideas to get the blood flowing between you and your love. As always the bottom line here is of course, to take some out from your busy schedule and do something out of the ordinary, something special, creative, sexy and romantic for yourself and your partner. This may be a small simple gesture but the underlying message that you deeply care about your relationship is undeniable. This will not just make the holidays more enjoyable and fun but also works towards making your relationship fun and enjoyable as well.

©Copyright 2010 by Moushumi Ghose (Wilson), MFT. All Rights Reserved. To Get More Satisfaction out of your Relationships and Sex Life Visit Moushumi Ghose, A Los Angeles Sex Therapist at Los Angeles Sex Therapy

©Copyright 2010 by Moushumi Ghose (Wilson), MFT. All Rights Reserved.

To Get More Satisfaction out of your Relationships and Sex Life
Visit Moushumi Ghose, A Los Angeles Sex Therapist at Los Angeles Sex Therapy

Reading on Vacation

I'm vacationing in the UK for the New Years holiday season and while traveling have been reading "Many Lives, Many Masters" by Brian L. Weiss, MD, A recollection of his treatment of a patient with severe anxiety disorder. When traditional psychotherapies failed to help his anxious client, Dr. Weiss resorted to Hypnosis. What he found was a journey into pat lives to unveil many links not just to current psychological disorders but what may be answers to our questions about life after death, before death, reincarnation, our creation and beyond.

"I believe strongly that therapists must have open minds. Just as more scientific work is necessary to document death-and-dying experiences, so is more experiential work in the field. Therapists need to consider the possibility of life after death and integrate it into their counseling. They do not have to use hypnotic regression, but they should keep their minds open, share their knowledge with their patients, and not discount their patients' experiences."
Brian L. Weiss, MD

Last Minute Holiday Therapy

In between Christmas shopping I am seeing clients, on Wed and Thursday this week. Call or email me for a last minute sex therapy session before I go on holiday for the holidays. You will thank yourself later.

TONIGHT!!

TONIGHT! I'll be giving my Libido Killers sex therapy talk at 5:30PM. Followed by an open house for the Holidays at 7:30PM ALL at the fab Liberace Penthouse.

Who you are in Life is who you are in Bed

Do you jump in with both feet into work and your relationships? Are you always late? Are you slow, and take your time? Are you worried, fearful, anxious? Do you leave projects incomplete, and unfinished?

People are often shocked, surprised and confused when they come into therapy for a sexual issue, not knowing where it stems from.

“I don’t know why I ejaculate so fast,” “I cannot seem to get aroused,” “I’m obsessed with porn,” or whatever the concern may be, sexual or not. And far too often I see this thinking process that does not believe there is a connection between our life, personality and sexuality. Far too often there is a disconnected disjointed thought process for most of us, disconnecting our sexuality from our personality, disconnecting our feeling from being.

But if we think about this realistically, we might pose and thus answer the question, how can this be?

Sex therapy therefore is actually about the whole being. Addressing the whole being is often at the root of uncovering any sexual issues.

In my sessions when I address issues about your family, your work, and your friendships I am getting to the root of you and the way you are in the world. This is a reflection of how you do things, from relationships to home, family, friends, and work. From how you deal with practical things and to dealing with loss, grief, and also sex. Who we are in life is at the core of who we are in bed. A confident person in life is more likely to exude confidence in bed.

So, the next time you catch yourself dismissing some aspect of your sexuality as something unimportant, maybe you should think again and think about yourself, and your whole being.

To Get More Satisfaction out of your Relationships and Sex Life
Visit Moushumi Ghose, A Los Angeles Sex Therapist at Los Angeles Sex Therapy

Mou Knows Sex and Love

My radio show will be titled "Mou Knows Sex and Love" and will air Tuesday Feb 1, 2011 at 4PM on the Voice America network.