The State of Affairs and the State of California

Today, I woke up to find that Obama is still president.  I am relieved.

I also found out that Measure B passed, which will require adult entertainment actors (I.E, porn stars) to wear condoms. Do Californians know what this means? These measures are tricky. They advocate for safe sex, which everyone advocates for however, most people don't read the fine print. Porn is entertainment, not sex education, for one. In this arena we are exchanging something that is supposed to be there solely for entertainment, READ: we like watching raunchy, wild untethered sex, into something that sets an example for others. Tisk Tisk California. What we need is more Sex Education, not condoms on porn stars! On an economic level, this is going to be terrible for California's economy. Porn is huge in Southern California, and many of the actors will be losing jobs, as porn may now take to another state. I thought Californians wanted their economy to recover. More stringent laws also means pushing things underground, which means bigger black market which means more illegal business, more violence and more crimes. This might be a scary time for California.

Proposition 35 passed too. More stringent laws for Sex traffickers? Sounds like a good idea, but sex traffickers already get punished. This doesn't make sense at all. More stringent laws is not the answer. These measures and propositions are going to set our state back. This particular proposition is a scam to punish:   
"innocent people by broadening the definition of pimping: anyone receiving financial support from consensual prostitution among adults, including a sex worker's children or spouse, could be prosecuted as a human trafficker. If convicted, they would have to register as a sex offender for life.

The measure could be challenged as unconstitutional for its vague definition of human trafficking that would include the "intent to distribute obscene matter," possibly for "cruel and unusual" punishments including excessive prison terms and fines, and for inhibiting a defendant's right to introduce evidence in defense trials.It will cost the state even more through increased workloads in probation departments and through new training for police." (from KCET.org)

What does this mean for me today? I broke down in tears, somewhat fearful of where this state is going. I remember the days of Bill Clinton, the country seemed to be moving forward, but now what? 
Now what? As a sex therapist and sex educator I have my work cut out for me. 

You're Gonna Have to Face it...

You're addicted to love! It's true, those are the lyrics from a Robert Palmer song in the 80's but ironically today a new classification of emotional addiction has emerged, called love addiction.

What exactly is love addiction? Well it's a term to describe compulsive behaviors that may result from fear of being alone, or of needed attention and affection. It's the compulsive seeking of attention and companionship which can be spiritually unhealthy for the soul, as well as developmentally for emotional growth.
Check out my article about Love Addiction here, and find out what it is and how to overcome it.

Orgasm October

I also started writing for Get Lusty, answering questions about sex and sexuality for their readers. In this weeks question a woman wants to know why she no longer orgasms with her partner. You gotta read the post to find out how to get your sexy back. Check it out here!

Do It Wisely!

I am a huge proponent for sex, in case you couldn't tell, but I strongly believe in making deliberate choices as well.  Sometimes in the heat of passion, we can be overcome by desire and lust and guess what can also happen... our caution can go out the window. Now, I am not suggesting we be cautious or reserved or tentative when we are sexual, quite the contrary, I am just suggesting that you make some choices for yourself in honor of your body and mind.

I've come up with a list of rules for having sex, if you are not in a relationship. Yes, I am suggesting you stop and think about it. Sex is not something that you should just be 'doing,' sex should be a conscious choice that makes you feel good in the moment and in the moments to come. Does that make sense?!
Anyway, here is the article I wrote: 3 Rules For Sex If You Are Single. Check it out!!

New Stuff For You!!

In a post from a few days ago, you will see the first in a series of professional sex education videos I did for Your Tango. Well, as part of my next step in Sex Education for individuals and couples I will be releasing a new video, every week, pertaining to some sexual revelation for you!!

In it's place, and after 19 months and 50 episodes, I have decided to take a hiatus from the radio show. (Sad Face) You can still catch all my episodes on iTunes, just search for 'Sex, Love & Rock 'N' Roll with Mou Ghose.' There are some amazing guests on there, talking about all things which are meant to help raise awareness about sex. I love doing the radio show, but with the new focus on videos, something just had to give. This summer especially, I had some of my favorite most inspirational guests on, and of course if someone else comes along I'll do a show here and there, but for now I have decided not to focus on these.

You will definitely be seeing lots of videos though... so stay tuned for those, and of course I will continue writing the articles for Your Tango and Good Therapy as well.

Thanks for stopping by... and HAPPY OCTOBERFEST to all!!