People are often shocked, surprised and confused when they come into therapy for a sexual issue, not knowing where it stems from.
“I don’t know why I ejaculate so fast,” “I cannot seem to get aroused,” “I’m obsessed with porn,” or whatever the concern may be, sexual or not. And far too often I see this thinking process that does not believe there is a connection between our life, personality and sexuality. Far too often there is a disconnected disjointed thought process for most of us, disconnecting our sexuality from our personality, disconnecting our feeling from being.
But if we think about this realistically, we might pose and thus answer the question, how can this be?
Sex therapy therefore is actually about the whole being. Addressing the whole being is often at the root of uncovering any sexual issues.
In my sessions when I address issues about your family, your work, and your friendships I am getting to the root of you and the way you are in the world. This is a reflection of how you do things, from relationships to home, family, friends, and work. From how you deal with practical things and to dealing with loss, grief, and also sex. Who we are in life is at the core of who we are in bed. A confident person in life is more likely to exude confidence in bed.
So, the next time you catch yourself dismissing some aspect of your sexuality as something unimportant, maybe you should think again and think about yourself, and your whole being.
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